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    "result": {"data":{"markdownRemark":{"html":"<p>An abusive relationship</p>\n<p>is like nicotine</p>\n<p>Addicted to suffering</p>\n<p>We keep it a secret</p>\n<br>\n<p>Physical, sexual or emotional abuse</p>\n<p>In our mind, an original love</p>\n<p>Looking for ways and a thousand excuses</p>\n<p>All for not pointing fingers at the abuser</p>\n<br>\n<p>This story doesn't start as a nightmare</p>\n<p>You don't fall in love with the one who humiliates you</p>\n<p>But the guy who takes you out to dance</p>\n<p>Where a kiss gives you wings to fly</p>\n<br>\n<p>With that image he tried to sell you</p>\n<p>A man who was going to love you</p>\n<p>You let yourself be carried away by the desire to love</p>\n<p>And you don't see he began to change</p>\n<br>\n<p>While everything you see is looking rosy</p>\n<p>There' s no one to show you anything else</p>\n<p>For ever since you were a little girl you've had this fantasy</p>\n<p>Of living with your partner always in harmony</p>\n<br>\n<p>The fairy tale begins to fade</p>\n<p>Jealousy grows, he wants to possess you</p>\n<p>He tells you that he only wants time with you</p>\n<p>And isolation becomes your worst enemy</p>\n<br>\n<p>Little by little he lowers your self-esteem</p>\n<p>Blaming you for everything, day after day</p>\n<p>He compares you to ex-partners and other women</p>\n<p>To make you question the person you are</p>\n<br>\n<p>Fear comes to take a hold of you</p>\n<p>You end up saying yes to everything</p>\n<p>just because you don't want to hurt him</p>\n<p>feeling that without him you couldn't live</p>\n<br>\n<p>you forget who you were, you depend on him</p>\n<p>you think you're cheating on him if you're faithful to yourself</p>\n<p>if it was him who chose you</p>\n<p>how can you say no to him</p>\n<br>\n<p>and what was emotional abuse</p>\n<p>that poisons your mind and leaves you feeling terrible</p>\n<p>between rage and visceral</p>\n<p>it becomes physical and sexual abuse</p>\n<br>\n<p>Sex becomes an obligation</p>\n<p>Where once there was raw passion</p>\n<p>If in intimacy you should fail him</p>\n<p>He warns you that he will surely replace you</p>\n<br>\n<p>He does what he wants without consideration</p>\n<p>Even if it's your partner it's still rape</p>\n<p>being illegal it's widely tolerated</p>\n<p>For it's your obligation since you are his beloved</p>\n<br>\n<p>All respect is lost</p>\n<p>And you become an object</p>\n<p>Someone to take out on</p>\n<p>Aggressions that he usually carries</p>\n<br>\n<p>Between screams and insults</p>\n<p>Punches, kicks and fists</p>\n<p>Your fault, it will always be</p>\n<p>I promise, I won't do it again</p>\n<br>\n<p>Many times drugs and alcohol</p>\n<p>Will make things escalate, he loses control</p>\n<p>And he'll always use it as an excuse</p>\n<p>And without consequence he'll hurt you</p>\n<br>\n<p>If any of this sounds familiar</p>\n<p>Find someone you can talk to</p>\n<p>Abuse in a relationship is more common than it sounds.</p>\n<p>And it's not something a brave woman like you deserves.</p>\n<p><img src=\"assets/no-more-violence-4.jpeg\" alt=\"\"></p>","frontmatter":{"category":"noMoreViolence","date":"2021-12-04T00:00:00.000Z","author":"Maria Josee","path":"/blog/abusive-relationshipis","title":"Abusive Relationships","image":"/assets/relaciones-abusivas-en.jpeg","language":"en","previewText":"An abusive relationship is like nicotine addicted to suffering we keep it secret"}}},"pageContext":{"mdPath":"/blog/abusive-relationshipis"}},
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